this post was submitted on 28 Mar 2026
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Nope, don't think I like this. No one should have to materially change themselves to conform to a relationship. That's a clear lack of boundaries on their part. At the same time, no one should have to allow themselves to be abused (or poked).
Recognizing when something isn't working, or there are just too many incompatibilies, is a sign of self awareness and personal growth.
This image doesn't show a healthy relationship dynamic, and I think that just needs to be acknowledged.
I sort of feel that the message of the meme is being severely undermined by making the couple a cactus and a balloon. Like, both the cactus' danger and the balloon's vulnerability are fundamental physical properties of them. As you're saying, they probably shouldn't be dating.
Yeah completely. The "just change" is as good advice as grow a third leg.
I think it’s less about changing, more about being mindful of how you affect others and what you can do about that.
Sure, if you’re incompatible, best to recognise that, but sometimes habits or attitudes that aren’t part of your identity can be avoided or tempered.
That's why it's a bad cartoon - the spikes are part of the cactus identity.
i get that vibe too.
no one should be with someone if the relationship is basically forcing them to be someone else.