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[CW: Mentions Suicide] How to get over regret about bottom surgery without killing myself? (programming.dev)
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I had bottom surgery almost a year ago and I regret it so much. I didn't say anything up to now I kept getting told that feelings of doubt and uncertainty will get better as it heals, well it's healed for over a month and it hasn't gone away. It's gotten worse! I feel like I'm broken, like part of me is missing. I wish I didn't fucking do this shit. I miss my dick and balls so much.

Don't tell me that I don't regret it and that regret is rare. This isn't the first time I spoke up. I said this shit on Reddit and the dipshits who run r/trans banned me telling me that regret is rare and that I probably don't regret it, and that the chance of me being not trans is tiny. I explained to those dumb fucks that I 100% am trans, am a woman and that I miss my dick and balls and they got me suspended for 3 days and muted me.

I absolutely regret it and I absolutely am a woman. Some days (currently now) I think about killing myself because I know I'll never be whole again. I just want to get in my car and drive off a gate bridge, and that would be it.

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[–] AllukaTheCutie7725@lemmy.blahaj.zone 3 points 2 days ago

I'm so sorry that you had to go through this, this post was painful to read. I'm non-OP myself and while I considered surgery before, I ultimately decided it wasn't for me. I can't even begin to imagine what it must be like to go through this, but I do want you to know there are people who are there for you. I know others have said this but please look for a therapist, and try to find some IRL support groups. I know it's hard but things can get better.