It's one month of being fully healed, no soreness or pain anymore. I'm sorry I worded that badly I wasn't and still aren't very well composed. I also do have dyslexia which can make writing difficult and some people won't understand me.
MarthaPuppyGirl
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I'll look for one. I don't know how much it'll help but it's worth a try I guess. Thank you.
Screw you! if I wanted to have people dismiss my experiences and validity I would go back to the transphobes on Reddit!
Oh, @ada@lemmy.blahaj.zone @LadyAutumn@lemmy.blahaj.zone I'm sorry My bad. I've been very volatile lately. I'm hurting very badly lately.
A lot of the discussions I had with mental health professionals were largely me telling then the things I thought would get me bottom surgery. I thought and was told that I needed bottom surgery to be valid. I was told many things, including that it was required for legal gender change, and that I could be assaulted by someone for having the wrong genitals.
I never actually felt any dysphoria about my penis or testicles, I was told that "numbness" is a form of dysphoria and that I would feel better once I was post-OP but it felt like the worst decision in my life. I was told that's normal and I would feel better as I heal but I didn't it just got worse.
I thought that getting bottom surgery would be as people said, that it would suck while I was healing but it would get better and I would feel more like a woman. I don't feel any more or less like a woman than before but I do feel disgusted and disgusting about what I have now, and I feel sad and miss having a dick and balls.
I hate those cis people you talk of, they are disgusting. They gave me so much fake support on Reddit and all of them told me that I feel bad because I'm a boy and just coping by pretending to be a girl. They refused to call me she/her pronouns saying I need to heal from the delusion. Fuck those people. I hate those people. I probably do need to see a therapist, I don't want to see the ones I was seeing before. They just told me to give it time and that I would adjust. That going through this is normal. Even when I came in one day with stitches in my hand because I broke my bedroom mirror out or disgust and sadness of seeing myself naked after the shower.
I was told by people I know and in support groups that it was the next stage and that if I didn't I wouldn't ever feel like a real woman. I was told that I would be seen as a man by others and that I could be assaulted by people I meet and hook up with. I don't really know, I guess I believed the shit people told me and thought it was the right thing to do. It was not.
I miss peeing while standing up. I miss... (People will think I'm a troll for this)
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I miss jacking myself to porn. Touching myself in general down there. Feeling myself down there, jiggling my balls. Things I took for granted back then.
I also hate dialating, I haven't done it at all in the past 2 months. It just feels so gross to stick something inside me. I don't even care if this rotten hole closes up. It's not like they can fix it or put it back how it was.
I miss just having it in general. Seeing myself with a dick back then I never thought anything of it, but seeing myself with this disgusting hole in my crotch just makes me want to vomit, and always makes me cry. I look so disgusting, I know other people don't think I would look disgusting if they saw me naked but I look disgusting to myself with a vagina. I hated it so much that I ended up breaking my bedroom mirror out of anger, sadness, and disgust. Tore a 2 inch gash in my hand doing that.
Yes, that's what I meant. One month of being fully healed, and the feelings of doubt and regret has gotten worse in that time.