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I experience Lemmy as a reflection of many of the problems in the world; there seems to be little effort to understand and respect different viewpoints. Instead of being curious about opinions one disagrees with, the community often feels almost aggressive. People end up in their own trenches. What about trying to be more open and curious about our differences instead?

Apparently we believe in freedom of speech—so long as the speech is something we agree with....

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[–] Krono@lemmy.today -5 points 2 days ago (1 children)

This whole post is about OP taking issue with criticism.

[–] Iconoclast@feddit.uk 9 points 2 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago) (2 children)

No, it's not - it's about the seeming inability to disagree politely.

The opposite of strawmanning is steelmanning. It's when you recite a person's view back to them in a way that they agree is exactly what they think. Only after that do you move on to actually discussing the disagreement - now that you're both on the same page instead of talking past each other.

I highly doubt OP would agree with your "steelmanning" of what they said.

[–] Krono@lemmy.today -1 points 2 days ago (1 children)

Yes, I was never attempting to steelman OP's argument. I was pointing out the flaws of the argument as it is given.

Steelmanning is a tool that is helpful in many situations, but that does not mean it is useful in every situation. Perhaps there is an ideal version of OP's argument, a steelman, that I would agree with. But the actual argument that OP laid out is not ideal, it is hypocritical, and I am pointing that out.

A student who gets a poor grade on a paper does not get to go to the professor and ask them to "steelman" their argument for a better grade. The paper is judged as it is written.

[–] Iconoclast@feddit.uk 4 points 2 days ago

No, you were just pointing out the flaws in your strawman interpretation of their argument.

Steelmanning doesn't mean making their argument better for them or "giving them the benefit of the doubt." It means making sure you've actually understood their point correctly before you start explaining why you disagree. If you can't steelman your opponent's view, then by definition you can't argue against it either - because you haven't grasped what claim you're even trying to counter in the first place.