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As a moderately broad shouldered guy who prefers side sleeping, I need robust pillow support.

I find that no pillow I buy, at any price, will last more than six months before its going flat every night.

Am I upset about about something that's perfectly normal here?

Like the "normal amount of toilet roll," I feel like this is one of those things that we never know what is normal for others.

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[–] dandelion@lemmy.blahaj.zone 9 points 1 day ago (1 children)

have you tried buckwheat hull pillows? they're pretty firm and stay firm in my experience, and you can always take out or add more hulls for a more or less firm pillow - might be helpful?

I sorta struggle with this because I like to sleep on my back, but I like to get sleepy on my side first, and so my pillow needs to be thinner for back sleeping, but when I'm on my side I need more neck support - so I sleep with a little extra pillow or something like a shirt, robe, etc. that I can fit under my neck on just that part of the pillow (also helpful for throwing over my face / eyes so I can sleep in when it's light in the morning).

[–] essell@lemmy.world 3 points 1 day ago (2 children)

Definitely worth a try. I worry they're "noisy" if I move in the night. Which I do. A lot.

[–] ccunning@lemmy.world 4 points 1 day ago (1 children)

They take some getting used to but I absolutely adore mine. I don’t find mine to be noisy but I’ve also found mine has help reduce the amount of repositioning I do at night.

[–] essell@lemmy.world 5 points 1 day ago

Gotta be worth a try, anything to not be laying here at 1.15am messaging on Lemmy!

[–] dandelion@lemmy.blahaj.zone 3 points 1 day ago (1 children)

they're not too noisy in my experience - but it absolutely is an adjustment to sleeping with them

they also really help with overheating in the summer compared to most other kinds of pillows, they breathe much better

[–] essell@lemmy.world 3 points 1 day ago

Well, that's a plus! Thanks.