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There's a story here. I'd love to hear the story, because from a "simple basic facts" framework, it might be sketchy, but depending on context may also be entirely fine.
I’m curious what your theories on the possible story is?
Are the adults consenting or is it unwanted? Do you know for sure whether it's unwanted or not? Just because you disagree with it doesn't inherently make it bad, but if it's not consentuel then it is bad. If the female needs assistance, then you can help out, but if she's fine with it, then it's not your business.
I have no idea, that's why I'm asking you. In a retail or restaurant scenario it would certainly be less problematic (again, depending on context), whereas it would be extremely problematic at a funeral, for instance.
Oh. Well, I witness this at work. So it’s at work with colleagues and I’m sure it doesn’t just stop there…
I don’t really know why it would make much difference on the scenario though
What kind of work? Retail, Funeral, or elsewhere? Flirting with coworkers, customers, or someone else?
Warehouse
Could it be problematic.? Yes but it also depends on both people involved. If she doesn’t mind it and she is OK with it Then I don’t see the issue. It’s two consenting adults. It also depends on whether or not his wife knows it. Better statement is he even married. Another question are other people around when he makes the jokes? See these are all contextual issues that I don’t know the answer to.
You do say that there are other people around or, at least you are around. Here’s the question of other people have heard it. Do they have issues with it? Again does she have an issue with it?
Yeah, it's problematic.
Sorry you got down votes on this thread, it wasn't me. But next time more details will definitely help flush out the question, because context matters. Best of luck dealing with this guy, he sounds exhausting.
Alright. Thank you.