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Why won't your parents let you get a job? You're gonna need to be an adult at some point, over sheltering you is just going to hurt you more in the long run.
This is a widely ignorant comment considering OP explictly says they're on SSI...
Please stop trying to help with things you don't know about. I've worked in this field and have seen far too many people lose their benefits for years because they managed to earn less than a grand in a month before not being able to keep up and losing the job and benefits.
https://www.nolo.com/legal-encyclopedia/how-much-can-you-work-while-receiving-ssi-disability-benefits.html
OP would at best, be working for free and is better off volunteering somewhere that needs volunteers and treats them as such instead of employees.
I was just asking a question? In fact almost the exact question you answered? Your comment would just be constructive instead of rude without the first two sentences. Thanks for the info anyways.
Despite their best intentions they can't protect their child forever. They need to have an honest discussion together so op understands why, but I still feel it's reasonable to try and do something to grow themselves. It's not going to get easier as the family gets older and the parents eventually can no longer work themselves.
I'm pretty sure you just don't understand how questions work...
But the answer to that one is "no, that is not all you were doing".
And I made another comment to OP, the more important part here is for you to understand if you don't know the answer but still want to comment, its honestly very easy to research to find out first. You could have just googled "working on SSI" and gained the same knowledge. Instead you blindly reinforced OP that they're right like an AI chatbot would.
That blind support without understanding is dangerous, but I don't think I'm going to be able to explain why in a way you can understand. I think you'll just continue to get upset someone said what you were doing is dangerous so you're just going to argue if it was intentional instead of thinking about the real problem: people you may harm if you continue acting like this.
Whether you're right or not is irrelevant if nobody listens to you because of your tone.
Which I did to OP...
Like I told the person spreading dangerous misinformation:
I don't expect that to work, but thats as much effort as I'm putting in
Im unsure why i cant get a job, but my family is planning on moving soon. i dont think my parents want me to start something big like a job yet, or maybe they think i cant handle it?
Ive tried asking them and they never give me a clear reason.
I think you kinda need one. There are real concerns to working on SSI, from hitting income thresholds and losing SSI, to losing medicaid, or having medicare premiums increase.
Your parents need to tell you what is stopping you from working, because if it's something like an income threshold or a worry you'll lose SSI entirely, that will likely need working around.
If they plan on moving away soon, then that's a very good opportunity to do some low pressure job searching and get practice with interviewing. If you're offered a job, you can always just do it until your parents decide to move, however long that is. You're under no obligation to stay at any job for any minimum duration.
What happens if you insist on a clear answer, saying this is what you want?
Do you have anyone apart from your parents you can talk to? A therapist, social worker, doctor?
This sounds a bit abusive to me. Did your parents threaten you with any repercussions if you get a job?
Are you able bodied?
I know it sounds weird but the barrier to entry for a basic job is not very high.
If they have a disability income (which they say they do) then getting a job would hamper the ability to collect that 🤷♂️
Sounds like exploitation
Yep, the parents are exploiting their kid for that sweet sweet social security payment. Obviously.
From their op, "I do have ssi but most of it has to go towards my parents"
Yes.
The most likely scenario is that the social security benefit goes towards providing for the child that is considered disabled enough to receive a benefit.
The “everything is always awful all the time” view that they must be exploiting the child is certainly one way to see it by default.
I've seen it before...