Im not sure what to think as ive never been in love or had friends, im only 20 and this it somewhat uncommon i think?
Ive been lonely my whole life and valetimes day is just another cruel reminder.
What do you think of this holiday?
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I'm ethnic Chinese and I dont think people in China dated in highschool and I think diasporas (especially kids of 1st gen parents) have some of same tendencies of "you better have good grades" so I don't think its exactly abnormal to not have a romantic relationship for someone like me. Like at least half of Asians I talked to did not have a romantic relationship.
So yea I never even attempted to have romance with anyone... tbf the urges were not even that high... idk why... might be partly asexual or something... Idk how to even masturbate...
As for friends... well idk if I ever had "friends" cuz I like never really hang out with people outside of school... so... yea its more like "acquaintances" in my view.
But after highschool was done its basically no contact at this point... thanks mom for not letting me have a phone for like the last 3/4 of highschool... (well tbf I broke my last one and they never wanted to replace it so... I guess its my fault sort of... ๐)
My older brother doesn't ever have romance either, so yea I'm not alone in "being alone" lmfao, he's a racist shithead and socially awkward...
So my mom was afraid he'd "be alone for the rest of his life" so arranged via her networks of "friends of friends" for him to meet some girl in China... and he just got a 10 year visa to visit China lol... so yeah...
And yea I'm also Gen Z in early 20s