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Have you ever loved somebody so much that you gave zero consideration to desiring anyone else, even in passing? (lemmy.ml)

submitted 2 days ago by tastemyglaive@lemmy.ml to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

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If you still desired others it wasn't #truelove IMHO but I understand this has become controversial in some circles.

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[–] racketlauncher831@lemmy.ml 2 points 22 hours ago (1 children)

To be honest too, I don't know. I just know that I love (or whichever word you assign meaning to) her a lot. I want her to be happy, but I don't want to have sex with her, nor do I want to have a formal romantic relationship with her.

I would like to emotionally, financially, or non-financially (like as simple as help pick up a parcel for example) contribute to her and ask for absolute no reciprocation.

If she eventually has a relationship with some one else, my heart would hurt a lot, but I would still be happy for her.

[–] Master@sh.itjust.works 2 points 14 hours ago (1 children)

Thanks for explaining it. I can understand it now but it still feels very foreign to me.

Kind of feels more parental than spousal. if i look at it like that it makes more sense. but im sure that is still not exactly how you picture it.

[–] racketlauncher831@lemmy.ml 1 points 8 hours ago

Thank you for your vocabulary too.😂 "Parental" is still off but not by a lot. I am far from old enough to be her dad, but a big brother I would accept the deal. "I do", haha.