The Fediverse is huge and overwhelming to a newcomer, with many different types and each with servers to pick from. Which ones would you suggest checking out or avoiding?
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It kind of is when you are a person that values their own agency and don't want your content to be curated by someone else.
It's not about you. It's about the type of content that will appear on the server, even if you personally block it.
Yeah, I didn't expect the admin of a filter-bubble to understand.
Look, I absolutely understand that some people want to make their own choices about moderation. I was the same, until I existed as trans on Twitter for too long.
My point isn't about blocking right wing transphobia stans.
My point is that if they don't block anyone, you get CSAM, you get Nazi's, you get ethnic cleansing advocates etc. And that's why an empty defederation list is a red flag. I'm explicitly not taking about instances that don't block many other instances. I'm talking about instances that don't block any.
As someone who signed up to sh.just.works because they didn't defederate a lot: the defederation can be worth it.
When we federated with hexbear, they came in like a plague of locusts. They were constantly trolling, making our local comms unusable, and generally being dicks. This went on for 4 days before the hexbear admins defederated from us to avoid the embarassment of us defederating from them.
I'd rather deal with that myself and block instances and users at my own discretion.
I can understand defederation from threads and like CSAM adjacent stuff, but that really should be it. Everything more feels patronising. Of course I understand that some communities are "safe spaces" or what ever, so for them it makes sense. But I'd never recommend those simply because I wouldn't recommend lemmy to anyone that isn't able to make their own decisions regarding the content they want to see.
The thing you need to realise is that when someone signs up for a safe space instance, they are making their own decision about the content they wish to see.