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[–] Gonzako@lemmy.world 61 points 2 days ago (14 children)
[–] PhobosAnomaly@feddit.uk 31 points 2 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago) (3 children)

Fucking hell, speaking with ChatGPT would leave you* like Randy Marsh.

"You've made great progress on this, here is how to take it further"

"I appreciate your input, it helps me understand better"

"You're very welcome! Don't worry, your kindness and humor have secured you a VIP spot in the Al utopia."

*edit: not you you, but you as in the OP in the screen grab. But maybe you you, I don't know it's 2026 do what you like really

[–] Gonzako@lemmy.world 24 points 2 days ago (2 children)

There seems to be a bit of a distinction between the sycophantic behaviour of chat gpt and a praiser. I really can't remember exactly what would be different as I don't interact with cGPT and it's been a while since I've gotten to be in a relationship that got that deep.

[–] PhobosAnomaly@feddit.uk 10 points 2 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago)

Yeah I didn't really think it through at any more than a superficial level, I was just in it for the lols.

I can't say I use genAI tools unless I'm having a really hard time with either a foreign piece of code, or an academic text that I'm just not grasping and need a reworded form of to help it sink in.

As for a relationship, my experience is that the further in you get, the less "praise" you get, and the more "direct developmental feedback" is the common line taken. Back in the dating days, an irritating quirk or annoying facet might have been warmly addressed with "hey it's cool that you're passionate about that game, have you not tried shouting at the TV though? It's not helpful for you or the gameplay"... now it's just "stop being a cunt" or "have you tried being less shit?"

[–] pfr@piefed.social 4 points 2 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago) (3 children)

I've baked into the settings for chat gpt to NOT compliment our praise me for anything. It'll still tell me I'm correct if I ask, but I rarely ask, because if you have to ask....

I just told it to talk like Foghorn Leghorn. It doesn't bother me nearly as much when instead of "you're absolutely right!" It says "well now boy, I say boy, you're sharp as a tack! I was more mixed up than a haybale in a tornado! That's a joke, son! Now pay attention, boy, cause here's the real solution!"

[–] Gonzako@lemmy.world 2 points 2 days ago

Oh, gotcha! For me it's something I caught up because my cuties loved it and it meshed really well in the D/s dynamic we had going on.

I'm certain I'd enjoy some praise and attention too but I still haven't really gotten into a relationship where that happens

[–] Passerby6497@lemmy.world 1 points 2 days ago (1 children)

How do you get those to stay? One of my biggest complaints about that clanker is the fucker can't remember basic directives for very long, and I'm constantly telling it to stay in the language I'm using instead of fucking off and doing whatever else it feels like doing.

[–] pfr@piefed.social 2 points 2 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago)

You can't give it custom instructions in the personalisation settings.

Mine are: 

Use an encouraging tone. Avoid praise. Take a forward-thinking view. Tell it like it is; don't sugar-coat responses. Use quick and clever humor when appropriate. Swearing is caring.

[–] hovercat@lemmy.blahaj.zone 8 points 2 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago)

Or install cargo-mommy if that's your thing, and then you can avoid AI too

le rant has arrived

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