Is it as many people describe? Do you have an easy or difficult time with it?
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To the ugly people out there:
I'm using "ugly" here for clarity, but it's important to remember that though beauty is in the eye of the beholder, there is "being ugly", "looking ugly" and "acting ugly"
Some people are naturally beautiful, other have to work on it. Call it talent, if you will. Either way, when talent doesn't work hard, you need to work hard yourself. Go to the gym, not to become a muscle machine, bit to be and look healthy. Surprise, looking healthy looks attractive. It's not even immediately about losing weight, though for some that too may be very helpful.
Then, go to YouTube and find some videos on helping to appear better. Look into fashion that you like, and whatever you pick, try to do it well. Look however you want, but just try to look well. A well dressed emo looks better than a shoddy emo. Same for chads, furries, or you name it.
Then: just don't be a dick. You can be beautiful on the outside, but if the inside is rotten, nobody will want to be with you, doh. Find people with your interests, be it sports, Warhammer, hiking, foods, politics, or playing chess, find someone that shares your ideas, interests and values.
And just be nice! That sounds easy, but it may require some work, depending how talented you are with being nice. I make a point out of it to always be a progressive gentleman. So while I'm not of the "women belong in the kitchen", I will always open every door for my dates (well, now wife),I always volunteer to help them out with something, I never ask for anything in return. Find a good sense of humor, everybody likes to laugh.
There are no guarantees, but with 8 billion people on this world, it can't be impossible to find somebody that wants to love you