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By the way this is the second time this has happend.

You know it sucks because I have been feeling suicidal lately and I've been seriously thinking about it. This just makes me want to let go even more.

Fuck the world, Fuck people like this. I don't even feel safe walking outside because I might get attacked or harassed by some right wing asshole who hates me because of who I am. What the fuck is happening. Why do I deserve this? Why? Why? Why?!! I've been crying about this soo much my throat is raw and I can barely cry anymore. It's so unfair. Just because I was born a boy people treat me so horribly. People want to kill me. People want me to die. Well I want to die. I would rather die than live in a world like this. Fuck me, fuck my life. I wish I was never fucking born. FUUUUUCK!

Edit: I'm going to go cry quietly under my bed, it's the place I feel safest right now.

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[–] dandelion@lemmy.blahaj.zone 0 points 1 day ago (1 children)

yeah, I think on Reddit a lot of times they make private communities for sharing photos - and Matrix probably has some private chat rooms that could work that way ... but I also agree that it would be best to have a platform that disables copying or screenshots (not that this is technically feasible, but you can still try to build features to make it difficult to do those) and has built-in expiration.

Either way, we're so far from having something like that, that I just as a policy don't share photos of myself :-(

[–] birdwing@lemmy.blahaj.zone 2 points 23 hours ago* (last edited 21 hours ago) (1 children)

I did actually encounter a few sites where you cannot copypaste, it was very weird. Screenshotting, not sure.

You'd also need to disable downloading. There are actually some scripts to disable both screenshotting and copypasting, so that's handy.

I think the safest way is:

  1. Make an instance (no idea how to do so though, and IDK how to selfhost).
  2. Make it visible only to both lemmy and piefed blåhaj communities, so there's already a filtering from creeps. It'll have the same banning policy as Blåhaj.
  3. Make a l/transpassing community on it.
  4. Mandate that:
    a) throwaways are used,
    b) if uploading an image, only a specific provider that satisfies all the following requirements, should be used:
    bi. cannot copypaste
    bii. cannot screenshot
    biii. has a no-sharing with third parties policy
    biv. auto-delete in a custom period, but always after 3 days
    bv. the image has slight compression / a watermark

That would be a good method, methinks.

Since I don't know how to do 1 and 4 yet, I think just making a transpassing community and mandating throwaways, would help.

[–] dandelion@lemmy.blahaj.zone 2 points 23 hours ago (1 children)

I don't think you could do this with lemmy or piefed - those would both make the images publicly available and easy to download. I don't know whether lemmy or piefed support private communities, but I haven't heard of such a feature so I assume not.

Regardless, the only way to prevent screenshots and downloads, etc. would be to avoid web-based solutions, i.e. you would need to create a custom app.

I know Signal has a feature like this where an image can only be viewed once, and I think it locks down the ability to download the image. Not sure if it prevents screenshots, though.

Either way, I really don't think the features you're describing are feasible without someone building a custom phone app.

[–] birdwing@lemmy.blahaj.zone 1 points 23 hours ago (1 children)

But on phones, you can make screenshots, whenever and wherever, no?

[–] dandelion@lemmy.blahaj.zone 0 points 23 hours ago (1 children)

nope, there are ways to develop phone apps that allows disabling screenshots. I've used phone apps that disabled screenshots.

Phones in general are much more locked down and easier to control. Desktop computers and the web are generally much more open and difficult to control.

That said, there's nothing stopping someone from taking a photo of their phone - there's no way to fully guarantee security, there are always workarounds.

[–] birdwing@lemmy.blahaj.zone 1 points 23 hours ago (2 children)

Which ones disable screenshots and don't allow copypasting?

[–] dandelion@lemmy.blahaj.zone 2 points 22 hours ago

pretty sure my bank app disables screenshots for example

[–] WalrusDragonOnABike@reddthat.com 1 points 21 hours ago

My CPAP machine app blocks screenshotting on my phone. I've never seen anything prevent screenshotting on desktop and blocking copy/paste is often circumvented easy by just looking at the source. But it would be enough to probably limit how many people do such.