Is it as many people describe? Do you have an easy or difficult time with it?
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Well, i got on some dating apps, spoke with some guys who fizzled out, had some awkward dinners, and eventually got a boyfriend. Together for 3 years now.
For specifics.
It took me a long time to find someone who I meshed with, and who I was excited to see every day. It only really clicked when I stopped trying so hard on dates. Just... had an honest conversation.
I would rather gnaw off my own foot than go on another first date.
Neg during a date?
Yeap. Strange choice to make, I agree. But negging at any time is a strange choice.
Are you just fucking with me? ha ha, I was wondering what negging means never heard it before.
I just looked it up, so thinly veilied insults, backhanded compliments, or to attack someone's self confidence to make them more vulnerable to hooking up with assholes kind of. I can't imagine doing such a thing trying to pick a girl up that is incredible this is like andrew tate manfluencer type of stuff.
Im sorry, I assumed you were confused by the "on a date" part.