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I can tell. I tried to be supportive and understanding here instead of just ragging on you, which I definitely could have. You have rejected it out of hand with excuses of why it just makes sense for you to be bitter and hateful. I don't know what else to tell you. That's on you.
Also, I definitely don't think I'm the exception rather than the rule considering how many men I know who have had similar traumas and are also well adjusted adults who don't blame the whole world for their problems.
If people can't blame the world for their problems, then why the fuck should any of us care about systemic oppression? It's the same logic. Blame the people who suffer for their own conditions.
If my problems don't matter, then no one's do. Or am I some special exception where everyone else's problems matter except mine?
It's absolutely not the same logic. You not being able to get loving people in your life as an individual because of a bad attitude and outlook is not in any way the same as systemic oppression. You are not being systemically oppressed because your shitty outlook and attitude makes you not likeable. You not having people who like you in your life is not anything like people being kidnapped in the streets, being denied legal counsel, food, water, or reasonable living facilities and then being disappeared to a country they've never been to. The comparison is honestly laughable.
You're desperately looking for any way to justify being an angry bitter sad sack. I don't know what to tell you.
Mate, I may or may not be qualified to diagnose anyone and don't know this person intimately, but they're giving off serious cluster B vibes. You can't argue logic with a cluster B personality that doesn't want to hear it. There's the world we live in and there's the world they fabricate, and the harder you push them toward reality, the deeper they delve into their denial of it.