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It's absolutely not the same logic. You not being able to get loving people in your life as an individual because of a bad attitude and outlook is not in any way the same as systemic oppression. You are not being systemically oppressed because your shitty outlook and attitude makes you not likeable. You not having people who like you in your life is not anything like people being kidnapped in the streets, being denied legal counsel, food, water, or reasonable living facilities and then being disappeared to a country they've never been to. The comparison is honestly laughable.
You're desperately looking for any way to justify being an angry bitter sad sack. I don't know what to tell you.
Mate, I may or may not be qualified to diagnose anyone and don't know this person intimately, but they're giving off serious cluster B vibes. You can't argue logic with a cluster B personality that doesn't want to hear it. There's the world we live in and there's the world they fabricate, and the harder you push them toward reality, the deeper they delve into their denial of it.
Am I unlikeable because I'm bitter or am I bitter because I'm unlikeable?
It's the first one, I promise. The second one is just the excuse you give yourself.
Okay, then I'll go back in time and tell my five-year-old self that it's actually my fault that I'm being picked on, that I'm just genuinely unlikeable and need to stop being bitter.
Maybe then I'll earn my dad's approval, and everyone who's taken advantage of me, bullied me, or treated me like a pushover ever since will magically respect me.
You're an adult, and you don't change it by telling your child self that, you change it by having some fucking self respect and not blaming every person who has mistreated you for why you should never trust or be kind to anyone else ever. Your own inability to accept your own lack of boundaries when it comes to being taken advantage of or treated like a pushover is evidence of that. I've been hurt too, but I also see when I made mistakes, didn't set clear boundaries, and how that impacted the situations a great deal. I have also seen when my own bad attitude has led people to dislike me, and so I dropped the bad attitude, because it hurt me more than helped me, and honestly, I'm much happier for it. You really ought to try it sometime.
So if I have weak boundaries and let people take advantage of me, then it's my fault and I can't blame others?
But when a woman has weak boundaries and gets taken advantage of, it's not her fault and she can blame men as a whole and take it out on men who had nothing to do with it?
Do you not see the double-standard here? Doesn't that reinforce gender stereotypes where "Men just need to take it on the chin, be a man, be tough. You're responsible for your own destiny. Not women though, they're subject to conditions and don't have any agency or control over their lives."?
Whenever I point this out, people get upset. As if I'm the one advocating for the stereotype. I'm not. I'm pointing out how it endures in the common mentality that we're discussing here.
That's odd because out here in the real world people absolutely let women know that it's their own lack of boundaries that led to being taken advantage of, and nobody gets upset because no one is being a petulant ill tempered dick about it when they do so. You are literally living in a fantasy land you've built for yourself so you don't have to face your own shitty attitude being part of this.
How exactly do you expect me to be in touch with consensus reality when I've been excluded from it and isolated for most of my life?
I don't know man, I was excluded from it for a long time and I made myself a better person and then had a happier life. You seem pretty dedicated to being an angry bitter asshole who blames everything on everyone but yourself, so like I said, you do you. Go ahead and be a fucking asshole who no one likes. I did my bit, walk away and stop being an annoying loser, please and thank you.
You got what you wanted, I'm sick of your loser shit, so piss off please. I don't need to hear it anymore, because you'll just use this as justification for why you're a fucking angry shitty loser instead of having an ounce of self reflection over anything you've said here in this giant fuck off thread of you being a whiny little bitch. Good, I hope you feel justified and I hope you stay the sad sack loser you are, because if you're really this much of a twerp who can't listen to positive re-enforcement you probably deserve it.
Wow, and to think I almost thought you were a decent person. Okay, whatever. Think I don't have thick skin from a lifetime of being treated like that? I've learned to laugh when I'm insulted, because otherwise I'd never laugh.
If you're that upset about it, you don't have to respond. Geeze, and you say I blame others for my bitterness. Whatever, dude.
Called it.
Also, if you actually had a thick skin, you wouldn't be a such a fucking whiner about all the times you've been mistreated. You're like that dipshit Donald Trump. Says he's a big strong man but can't shut the fuck up about all the perceived slights he's ever received. Strong people with thick skin don't spend several hours writing full on screeds about how awful their life is because everyone else is a big meanie. They especially don't compare people not liking them because they're a bitter assholes to people's human rights being violated. Seriously, grow the fuck up. Although I know you won't because then you won't have the satisfaction of being able to say it's everyone else's fault.
Don't compare me to that fascist.
Never once did I claim to be "strong." Humans are remarkably fragile beings. Anybody who considers themself "strong" is deluding themselves.
I said I have thick skin, there's a difference. If I didn't, I'd be butthurt about the things you're saying, which are clearly intended to be hurtful.
Also, having thick skin doesn't imply acceptance of abuse. Didn't you learn that in therapy?
I can have thick skin and still complain about the problems I've faced. And if it doesn't matter that the world has been unfair to me, then I will no longer care about being fair to the world. Simple as.
Sounds like the making of a supervillain background story. Don't worry, I don't think I have any superpowers.
I don't know, you're the biggest fucking clown I've ever encountered, so that seems like a superpower.
You get to be compared to him, because I spent an afternoon trying to be nice and having you bitch and moan and make excuses for yourself at me. Just like he does. Get over it.
Also, it's weird how much you obviously get off on this. It's clear you want people to not like you so you can be bitter about it, otherwise why would you try so fucking hard to make it happen?
Fuck you. I haven't really been upset about anything you said until this point, but fuck you for that one.
Fuck you too, buddy. Fuck you, too.
Ciao 👋