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my life is pretty great. I love it.
What i don't love, however, is inviting people into my life only for them to tell me how crappy it is because it's not the life they want. I don't really socialize anymore because I am so sick of people telling me how wrong my life is because I don't enjoy what they enjoy or want what they want. fore example, i drive a 10 year old hatchback, and almost everyone new I meet, when they learn this, lectures me no how I should drive a 'better' car, and it should be a BMW SUV or something like that, and all it is them projecting their desires onto me. and if i dare say something like 'I'm good with what I have' I get a lecture about how I must be mentally ill or stupid. How could I possible be happy with my 'crap' car? my job, my home, my dog, etc.
I used to have lots of friends, but the past 5-10 years it's dwindled to like 3 people. Because I shut people like this out of my life once they start talking to me like this. And it's prevented me from making any new friends. I am so SICK of inviting people over to my place only to get this full on lecture about how 'offended' they are I don't live in a million dollar luxury apartment, because my place is 'shithole' if it doesn't have $5000 luxury appliances or something stupid like that.
I keep trying to meet new people, keep trying to date, etc, but this is the massive roadblock I keep running into. I am so sick of it and it makes me unhappy, so I basically don't socialize much anymore. Because I like being happy and not interacting with twats who think I need a therapist if my salary isn't 500K.