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The bus driver just yelled at me for standing up when we were approaching my stop, he said I had to sit still until the bus stopped. But he didn't say anything to other people who did this before me. And when I got out, he rudely said that drivers should be thanked before getting off, which I would have done if he hadn't yelled at me, аnd again, he did not say anything to the woman who silently got out before me. I dont know what it was, maybe he thought I was a kid because I look young, or maybe he just wanted to yell at someone, either way my evening is ruined🫠

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[–] Apytele@sh.itjust.works 1 points 3 weeks ago

I think this is the best comment. It's not impossible that they chose OP due to some demographic category but they had probably been annoyed at all the other people too. From what I'm reading in other comments about demographics they probably chose OP because she seemed less likely to fight back. So to sum up, the bus driver had a real gripe, but they took the coward's way to address it.

This is largely unrelated to OP specifically but I've been thinking about the bus drivers a lot lately because I get on at the end of the line where they stop to take their break. There's always someone standing there mad that the bus driver won't let them on. And first of all break is sacred, but also specifically; having a public safety job myself though, I get it. My guess is that the bus driver is considered responsible for our safety while we're physically on the bus and people don't realize how stressful that is.

You just have this constant low level anxiety of "what are these people going to do that I'm responsible for trying to stop them from doing, and are they going to get violent with me for telling them to stop?" And that anxiety is mostly the good type that's low level and just keeps you at attention but you can't maintain that level of attention continuously. You have to shut it off at some point or it starts doing weird shit to your brain both on and off the job.