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I'm sitting enjoying a bit of sun in the Scandinavian winter. A pair of mature ladies are sit down next to me having a conversation. They are talking about funerals, remembering and comparing. Cascets, urns, churches and funeral lunches. One of them circles back to humble bragging about one funeral in particular. "It's the most modern funeral I've ever been to", she says every time.

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[–] NABDad@lemmy.world 2 points 3 months ago (2 children)

My paternal grandfather used to say, "jam a ham bone up my ass and let the dogs drag me away."

I never got a satisfactory explanation for what the purpose of the ham bone was, but I'm not going to kink shame.


I found out about burial at sea, and I like the idea. Just arrange for a deep-sea fishing charter with a cooperative skipper. Family gets a fun fishing trip, and you save a bit on chum.

Unfortunately, my wife doesn't like being in water where she can't touch the bottom with her toe, so I don't think it will happen.


For the record, my grandfather's actual instructions were that he should be cremated and disposed of with no funeral or notice to anyone. My father and grandmother disregarded his instructions slightly by arranging for our immediate family to get together, see his body, and say goodbye in the funeral home prior to his cremation.

It was honestly the least disturbing dead body I've ever seen. He looked dead, but he looked normal. It was not unpleasant. 10/10 would recommend. I've been to a lot of funerals where the made-up appearance of the deceased was just traumatically disturbing.

[–] Tvon0707@thelemmy.club 1 points 3 months ago (1 children)

The hambone has gotta have been the bait for the dog to drag him? Am I the only one thinking that?

[–] NABDad@lemmy.world 2 points 3 months ago (1 children)

That's the implied reason, but I wouldn't think feral dogs would need the hambone.

[–] Tvon0707@thelemmy.club 2 points 3 months ago

hey, it adds insult to injury, kinda adds a touch of humor