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3 places where I feel like gender separation doesn't really make sense


Sports

Separation of men and women in sports is fairly admirable as it gives people a chance to showcase their skill that would otherwise be outcompeted. It additionally is nice as women are a group that are often discriminated against and exposure in previously limited areas is nice. However, I don't think that a strict gender separation is really necessary. I think that an ideal system would allow anyone with higher skill to go to the top of their league, relative to the physical ability determined by their genetics. I'm not very into sports, but I get the impression that people's enjoyment often comes more from people's character and effort than the absolute magnitude of their ability. Short v.s. tall people in basketball are one example that comes to mind; a shorter person would require much more skill to reach the same level as a taller person currently. I'm not much of a wrestling person, but I think this is addressed there through weight classes. A possible wider idea is be some meta-classification into classes based on the characteristics that cannot be changed with more practice or other self-improvement.


Bathrooms

this is basically a summary of this very silly 2kliksphilip video

Urinals are more space-efficient than toilets, but typically only are found in men's restrooms. Therefore, with equally sized men's and women's restrooms, the men's restroom gets higher throughput assuming an equally sized demand, and has under-occupied stalls compared to the women's room. Even if both are perfectly sized for average demand, there will still be inefficiencies when outlier groups come in. There's really no reason other than tradition to not just separate out the urinals (if desired) and unify all of the stalls, with full height walls if you think it isn't private enough (Really, as a 6 foot 2 guy, it's silly how low stall wall tops usually are).


Pronouns

I was working on a thing recently and had to refer back to someone in a sentence that already included 2 men. I know that some other languages have primarily gender neutral pronouns, but a concern that I have had is that it would make it harder to tell who someone is talking about. I think there are some alternate systems that are better at resolving general ambiguity though, like having different pronouns for the person most recently named vs. 2nd most recently named, etc. There might be languages that do this already, idk, I just speak English and a teeny bit of Spanish lol. I haven't put all that much thought into this but I'm sure there are ways that could make this problem in communication even easier than it is currently. If we could ever get an opportunity to modify common speech.

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[–] TaTTe@lemmy.world 4 points 6 days ago (1 children)

I agree with you on all points, but I'd also like to add that there's an argument the current system in sports discriminates towards women.

In many sports, there's a top league for men and a top league for women. Since men on average perform better, the men league is almost always favored, meaning there's more money from advertisement and sponsorships, providing more lucrative contracts for the players.

Even if a woman would be among the very best in a sport, she'll never be able to actually play in the top league in the best teams with the most lucrative contracts, which I think is 100% sexist.

[–] AdrianTheFrog@lemmy.world 7 points 6 days ago

I doubt people favor the men's teams because they perform better, they're not even playing against women's leagues so viewers don't have an automatic comparison of performance. If every basketball player's free throw percentage went down by half, I don't think people would enjoy the sport that much less, because I think people care more about the rankings etc than the absolute value. So I think the problem is mostly that the men's teams came first and already built up a following, and it's more fun to follow a team with a bigger following, so everyone just follows the men's teams. There probably isn't that much of a solution to this, because even with some meta-classification thing like i'm proposing people might still mostly follow the top absolute performance league which would be mostly men (depending on how much of an advantage gender gives in a specific sport). in the ideal society where gender stops mattering as much, then it could become 'just another factor' like height and weight that the people in the leagues with less potential performance would have

i don't know, i don't think there is a perfect solution or even a very good solution