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There is no picture on the box. The pieces are blank.. So draw an image on the box..
Visualize it and make at least one step in that direction each and every day. The pieces will then take on that image. Give that picture time to form.
Ask yourself, what does YOUR life want to be? Creative? Inventive? Adventurous? Domestic? Entreprenurial?
NGL, you don't really hit it as to what you want and who you are until you're 27 or so, then you'll find that by 35 you'll be stepping into your full potential. (It's Peak Skills time.)
Sort that first.. WHO you are. What you want, what you'll tolerate and more importantly, what you will NOT put up with, no fucking way fuckyouvery much.. (this is absolutely critical for mental and emotional well being)
Then give yourself time and be aware that tastes change as we get older, so be prepared to roll with a change if it comes to you.
Don't hang on a sunk cost - regardless if you spent a decade going in one direction and then you find that you've pivoted to another..
The effort you put in going in that first direction is experience that will only give you a base on which to move from..
There's a reason we have the phrase "well rounded" to refer to those with a wide range of skills, confidence and experience.
Everything is a benefit - whether it is a skill or just personal confidence.
Being a young adult, frankly, is a ball of suck.
My own life from 17 to 27 was a struggle with loneliness, self-doubt, financial hardship, and a ton of hard, ugly lessons.
It was ALSO a time of incredible fun, moments of pure joy and fierce companionship. And in all of that I learned a lot of confidence and fortitude. You will as well.
At 61 I still don't know what I want to be when I grow up, but I know what and who I am and have managed to find a niche that I fit into and expanded it into a profession.
Do I make the most money I could? Oh hell no.. However, I've got a super community of people around me - friends, family and co-workers and we all get along and care for and about each other and that is what I have found matters - in the long run - the most.
Network the hell out of your life with people you admire and whose work you respect. The rest, in time, falls into place.
I don't know how to explain it in terms that don't come off sounding drippy and trite to some..
You've got more potential than you realize. Focus on finding the things that bring you the most joy once you've sorted who you are and explore them to their fullest and see what comes from that. There's really no hard and fast rule, other than be flexible and open to change.
And NEVER hesitate to cut toxic people from your life. (speed dial that MF'er)
You got this.