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Also, for the sake of maximising engagement - what mistakes did adults in-general make when interacting with you as a kid, that you avoid replicating today?

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[–] Rhynoplaz@lemmy.world 20 points 1 day ago (1 children)

"No buts! Because I said so"

I explain things to my kids so they know WHY we are doing them. If they have an idea as to why we should be doing it differently, like give me 10 more minutes first, or I like it this way, then I listen, consider a compromise, if at all possible.

For example, if it's time for bed, but they're in the middle of a fortnite match, then I let them finish it. If it's time for school, and they just started a match, sorry, turn it off, you knew we had to leave soon.

[–] starlinguk@lemmy.world 16 points 1 day ago (1 children)

There's a time and a place for that, but sometimes you just want them to not run across the road right now.

[–] Rhynoplaz@lemmy.world 10 points 1 day ago

That's why you grab them and explain so they don't do that anymore.