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What did you or your partner stop doing after the honeymoon phase? (lemmy.world)

submitted 1 day ago by TheReanuKeeves@lemmy.world to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

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I mean honeymoon phase as in the initial period of dating rather than an actual honeymoon

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[–] wizardbeard@lemmy.dbzer0.com 12 points 1 day ago (2 children)

I'm sure understanding those things helps, but it's not an easy thing to hear for people stuck in an imbalance in the relationship.

Sure doesn't feel "healthy" when you feel your needs aren't being met, especially when you get told the problem is you because you want more than they are willing to give.

"A big part of my love language is physical intimacy. When my partner doesn't reciprocate any interest in it, despite every attempt on my end to communicate my needs, it makes me feel unloved. I'm hurting and you're going to tell me it's my fault?"

Look, it's very easy to casually give advice like this when you aren't stuck in what feels like a fundamentally broken relationship.

[–] andrewta@lemmy.world 2 points 23 hours ago

just a thought, take a look at this ladies video. it's aimed at both men and women to help figure out why intimacy either isn't there or has slowed way down.

i highly recommend having your partner also watch that video along with a ton of her other videos. she is really really good.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PU3GOKOEKaU

i hope it helps you and your partner.

[–] just_an_average_joe@lemmy.dbzer0.com 4 points 1 day ago

I just shared some interesting studies and trends that I once read about when I was going through similar difficulties myself. Your case definitely feels unhealthy, im so sorry you have to go through this.