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First, "find a girlfriend and get married" is terrible advice even if you wanted that. You shouldn't just want to be married like it's an achievement is a video game. You need to find the person you want to spend the rest of your life with, if that's what you want.
Second, I'm 52 with a good career and kids between 32 and 13, and I'm still not sure what I want to do when I grow up and I often wish I could go back to being a kid again. You don't have to have all your shit sorted to be an adult, being an adult happens with life experience.
Getting out and living life will expose you to people who could potentially turn out to be the one, but it will teach you to be an adult if your parents failed on that score.
Depression sucks and for most people it's a chemical imbalance that doesn't go away except with medication. In my case, my depression basically went away when I treated my ADHD and started accomplishing shit. I just hate myself when I'm not on meds and am basically useless. I hate that I wasted nearly twenty years of my life doing nothing when I could've been medicated, but in the last twenty years or so I've accomplished most of my life goals.
I can't promise anyone they can do the same but I do believe if people can their brain chemistry sorted, they can achieve many of their goals.
Good luck.