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I don't use the term cocksucker myself, but I think fact that vulgarity already gives it negative connotation. Like, I didn't pat my wife on the head last night and call her my cute little cocksucker. I can imagine that could be sometime else's pillow talk, but that would leave me touch starved for a while.

I don't THINK calling a gay man a pussyfucker would have the same weight, but I don't have deep enough conversations with gay men to really know. I have heard that some men pride themselves in never having been with having never been with a woman, so maybe it would still hurt.

On the flip side, just calling someone a fucker can be enough to start a fight.

I'm not going to pretend that the poster meant to use the word as asshole, because cocksucker definitely hits different to male pride. I don't think I would use the word to hurt someone I was angry with, but who knows what might come out when emotions are high. I don't plan on using the word for fighting, but insulting someone could be enough to cause someone to attack riskily. If you don't practice what you say, then you might just repeat something you will regret.

To summarize, I hope the poster isn't a bigot, but when given the chance they appear to have doubled down. Guess you got your answer.

Edit: Not wasting my time with discussion starved trolls.