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dealing with impulsive yapping/being rude and volume control? (pawb.social)

submitted 15 hours ago* (last edited 15 hours ago) by ollie@pawb.social to c/asklemmy@lemmy.world

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cross-posted from: https://pawb.social/post/37056794

i tend to be a bit of a yapper, very loud (theres an interesting reverse-masking thing going on there, which if anyones interested, lmk and ill explain) and tend to be quite rude.

really inside, im a quiet person, but i tend to impulsively speak and be loud, and say things i dont really want to say, e.g. being rude.

these are things i really want to deal with. when i talk less, and be quieter like i am inside, i tend to be much happier. does anyone have any tips?

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[–] ollie@pawb.social 1 points 14 hours ago (1 children)

unfortunately, asking never goes well, i try to be verynice about it but mum just wont let me, so i always have to find alternative coping mechanisms

[–] Hermit_Lailoken@lemmy.world 3 points 14 hours ago* (last edited 14 hours ago) (1 children)

Meditation/mindfulness may assist you.

Mindfulness is the practice of paying full, non-judgmental attention to the present moment—your thoughts, feelings, sensations, and surroundings—to cultivate awareness and reduce stress. It's a skill developed through techniques like meditation (body scans, breathing focus) that helps you respond less reactively to life, improving focus, emotional regulation, and overall well-being, with benefits for anxiety, pain, and stress, but it's not about eliminating negative feelings.

Here is one of many mindfulness meditation videos on YouTube.

[–] ollie@pawb.social 4 points 14 hours ago (1 children)

maybe i should really try to get into doing that, i struggled with it so i tended to lose motivation but if‎ its gonna help me with this its worth doing

[–] Hermit_Lailoken@lemmy.world 4 points 14 hours ago

If you get distracted while meditating, notice it and move on. Also, try to keep from being hard on yourself/beating yourself up.