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Two for me:

  1. The moment you feel tipsy it's time to ease down. You have a stomach full of booze that's going to make you more drunk even if you stop immediately.

  2. If you think people are good, you're probably right and if you think people are bad, you're probably right.

People are good IMO.

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[โ€“] fizzle@quokk.au 7 points 3 weeks ago (1 children)

The Funamental Attribution Error is relevant here.

Wikipedia describes it like this:

the fundamental attribution error[a] is a cognitive attribution bias in which observers underemphasize situational and environmental factors for the behavior of an actor while overemphasizing dispositional or personality factors. In other words, observers tend to overattribute the behaviors of others to their personality (e.g., he is late because he's selfish) and underattribute them to the situation or context (e.g., he is late because he got stuck in traffic).

Or, as it's often described in common parlance, we judge others by their actions but ourselves by our intentions.

I don't really think it's helpful to collapse a persons character into "good" or "bad". The vast majority of people think they're good, and that those actions they've undertaken which others might describe as bad were either misunderstood, or justified.

[โ€“] ArgumentativeMonotheist@lemmy.world 3 points 3 weeks ago (1 children)

First of all, sorry for the long, rambling reply!

I agree that most people worldwide will probably not transgress in heinous ways but there's certainly a "collapse" to happen on the Day of Judgment, and we will find out which threshold we crossed with our acts (this is the framework at least a quarter of the world is working on, more or less, and mine too ofc)... evidently, we're not God so we cannot fully account for everyone's deeds or even fully comprehend the scale on which to place them but in our day to day lives we usually understand some people are lovely to be around and boons for everyone and others are selfish and immoral to wicked and despicable and we spend our time with them/avoid them accordingly. We can avoid the hard categories "good" and "bad", but IRL we do classify people in groups of "good enough to have in your life" and "bad enough to avoid" and, whilst some people are just difficult and mentally not ok/intellectually challenged but spiritually/ethically 'on the right track', others just show complete disregard for everyone else and are aware of it, they just simply don't care...

TLDR: There is such a thing as a "good" and "bad" people, even accounting for ignorance, stupidity and mental instability, and we can tell them apart by their objectively good and bad decisions and takes on those decisions (ethically speaking, ofc)... we just can't make a final judgment on it. We know the direction these things go but we don't know the equation on the scales nor have the computing power to figure it out. ๐Ÿคท

[โ€“] fizzle@quokk.au 7 points 3 weeks ago (1 children)

I can't argue with a position that requires faith, sorry.

[โ€“] ArgumentativeMonotheist@lemmy.world 4 points 3 weeks ago* (last edited 3 weeks ago)

That's pretty fair (and polite!). ๐Ÿ‘