this post was submitted on 01 Dec 2025
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Ye Power Trippin' Bastards
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This is a community in the spirit of "Am I The Asshole" where people can post their own bans from lemmy or reddit or whatever and get some feedback from others whether the ban was justified or not.
Sometimes one just wants to be able to challenge the arguments some mod made and this could be the place for that.
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fwiw I wasn't saying the mod was homophobic based on that comment.
I just thought that it was unnecessarily sexually degrading and misogynistic, thus not a good fit in a 'queer friendly' space
I don’t see how it’s misogynistic. Definitely sexually crude, but there’s nothing gendered about the insult, as compared to words like cunt or dickhead. Both men and women can use cumrags (or be used as one).
Wondering if this was a spin on the word comrade being close to cumrag as well.
my reading is that misogyny isn’t just about whether the target is female, and obviously on a surface read anyone can be a cumrag, or use one.
the use as an insult still relies on demeaning traits that our culture associates with women or femininity. gay men can still have internalized misogyny
Even though "cumrag" can apply across all genders, the primary meaning has been "a thing used to wipe up semen," and "a person treated like a used-up sexual object."
the people getting framed as:
passive
used
disposable
interchangeable
something sex "happens" to
are women, femmes, and bottoms coded as feminine.
I can feel empowered by describing myself as a slut, cumrag, whatever, and use the term affectionately for others. however using those as insults on anyone I disagree with is still reproducing misogyny
Thanks for sharing your perspective. I don’t necessarily agree but I appreciate it nonetheless
I guess I've led a sheltered life, because the first definition is the only one I thought of initially. But since you've pointed it out I get the issue with it now. I was equating it in my head with something more like "asswipe" initially. But even without the misogyny aspect, the ban was still PTB.
In a similar vein, describing one person submitting or otherwise going along with what another wills as "dickriding" or other similar sexual act is also baked in misogyny and homophobia. The cultural shame levied against gay men, women in general, etc. is why it's supposed to hurt to be called a dickrider for someone, rather than just a sycophant. Both are pejoratives, one relies on that cultural shame.
This is some go go gadget arms level of reaching.
This is some ostrich-head-in-the-sand lack of awareness.
Yeah, in the sense that it's a made up myth.
Misogyny is a made up myth, you’re right! Here let me highlight the important part for you, dummy.
This is true. The effects are more than just on women.
I feel true pity for you. Please go away. Downvote first though!
Glad to see condescension is still beneath you!
In this specific case, yeah.