That's a two way street though. I got to put up with you being mildly annoying and in exchange you have to conform to social norms to not be VERY annoying or downright disruptive.

Yeah, and I've heard from people in collectivist societies that social norms and expectations tend to be firmly regulated. At some point, "live and let live" just leads to hidden resentment and passive agression

[–] ConcreteHalloween@hexbear.net 15 points 4 months ago

You can read a million and one accounts of communes and whatnot that tried to be all libertarian about everything, but then people kept having conflicts requiring the commune to implement rules and more rules to the point the commune's rules felt more restrictive than living in regular society.

Yeah while there are certainly bad ones, a lot of pedestrian rules of politeness exist for a reason. I'm not exactly an anthropologist but if anything the reading I've done on pre/non-capitalist societies seems to suggest if anything they were MORE obsessed with politeness and decorum, you could argue modern society is if anything DEGRADING our sense of common courtesy.