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this really sucks. she's with someone else and says that maybe one day we can try again but not now. i'm in pieces trying to move on. i really thought things were going better than for a long time between us, but...

i am afraid that i'll never find someone i connect with as deeply as her. she was my first and only love and i'm truly heartbroken. will it ever be ok again? does anyone know any good coping strategies or ways to deal with this?

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[–] AssortedBiscuits@hexbear.net 3 points 4 months ago

will it ever be ok again?

You really can't answer this question without going through a year of this at least. 2 weeks is nothing within the lifespan of a person's life. This is true for broken up relationships, divorces, death of a family member, death of a family pet, death of a close friend, and so on.

You have to be patient and wait a year. You have to at least past through the break-up anniversary. Do not make major life decisions (marrying, moving to a different part of the country, moving out of the country, switching careers, and so on) in this year of waiting. Just wait and (try to) enjoy life for what it is. When that year is up, you'll be more level-headed and less emotionally volatile. This is different from saying you'll be over the relationship (you definitely won't), but your internal state is at a stable enough point that you can resume actively living life instead of passively taking whatever life throws at you.