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i wanna be an alternative woman,.,.
It's not hard.
Gimme more detail, plus measurements, hair+skin color (eye for accessories only), region so I don't suggest shit that won't ship to you. ('Eu' 'continental usa' level)
Edit: broad body shape and colors (hair color very changeable) optional.
umm well.,..
i... see - umm.... fine....
i got som longer red hair (not dyed), sadly som... rather boxy shaped body ;( .,.. have boring white skin,... som boring brown eyes.,.. and yeaaaa i come from the eu.,.,, sadly rather tall.,.. 1.8 meters or somethin,,...,.
Can work with that.
Okay, so you're gonna want to make curves. Assuming roughly ginger color scheme:
Try a lines and low waisted stuff, let your clothes define your waist for you. Draw attention to your legs if they're long with cool stockings and leggings. You may want to look into petticoats. Long flowy majestic shit works well with tall. Think big skirts.
For colors youre gonna want to go fall baroque. Obviously black works on everybody. I'm told navy blue works well but depending on your precise coloring¹, you're going to do well with dark greens and reds, and maaybe vibrant yellows/golds.
So. You are gonna want accessories. Those help draw the eye and create perception of shape.
Basically any precious metal's gonna look good on you, but I'd go for copper and gold or rose gold. Dont fuck with solid; plated is fine.
You can fuck with perceived shape with shiny things; piercings, makeup. Make the eye/attention echo the shape you want. Try with glitter glue or stickers or something in your bathroom mirror before finalizing anything.
A little like ice cream, until you have a better idea what you're doing, you're going to figure out if you want a mostly-metallic or mostly-matte palette on a given day.
For below the chin, you can use pins/brooches, necklaces/pendants/lockets, bangles/bracelets/anklets for metallic spot color, but I would urge ribbons and scarves in particular as a flexible utilitarian way to create lines. You're not going conservative, so you have a little more freedom to go baroque with number of accessories, or even using accessories for coverage.
Oh. And hats. Hats exist. They also keep the sun off your face and cover messy hair, or so im told.
Now, how do you want to fuck with norms? Gimme a mood or impression. More than one is fine.
¹color theory shit
Oh and gloves if you dont love your hands/arms. Long gloves turn insecurity into an air of mystery. My hands are basically scar tissue with bones in them, and wearing gloves I look hot AF. Long gloves for fancy, short specialized gloves that fit well with your sleeves for utility
girl in yellow is about 1.9 meters
Is this offer open to anyone? I'm always up for new style tips!
Yeah but gimme a vibe too.
Barely shy of 200cm tall, Auburn red hair, green eyes.
Rough Circumference: Over Bust ~41' Under bust ~37' Waist 30' Hips 40'
Leg length 38'
My shoulders are somewhat broad and I have a bit of a top biast mild hourglass look. I look a bit like I work out when I don't because of it. I tend to find tank tops work well, while shirts that have a small neck, or stuff like turtlenecks look really bad (too broad, too uniform).
I mostly like witchy vibes but I like colour in it. I've been trying to get fairy core to work for me but they're often uncomfortable, too over the top, or don't stick to the loose rules I have (high waisted clothes, cinched waist, open necks, form fitting where possible.) I've been trying to get goth working too but i don't want to wear just black. Getting professional clothes that work has been a unaccomplished challenge because of sizing/not wanting to wear bland, but I wear a lab coat so I can hide it, but would appreciate help there for when I can't hide behind the coat. I like flowery blouses but I only own one that fits and it's men's I tailored.
Hopefully this is okay as a vibe descriptor? I wasn't sure how to respond.
I'm seeing mixed units, similar coloring here. Also very tall. So a lot of what I said there applies.
Dark colors and a vibe are more important to a goth look than sticking to black all the way through. Those colors I mentioned, greens and reds? They work well with that. Add on accessories that look like slightly too much. You wear a lab coat? Fuck it play that up, wear heavy dark gloves and hang goggles or a respirator around your neck as an accessory. Pair with black slacks and a conservative black blouse (or black scrubs).
For business-shit that doesn't look boring youre going to want to do layers and embroidery rather than prints.
Layers:
So a high cut tank in one color, a low/medium cut top, abd a coat/cardigan/whatever, harder to do with pants, but you can see how the concept works. The utility is normal clothing items function as accessories creating shapes and drawing eye, can mix colors/prints, it can look extremely put-together/professional, and you can take things on/off for temperature throughout the day.
Sorry I'm out of it for some reason today. Bother me later and I'll have better for you.