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[–] chunes@lemmy.world 16 points 2 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago) (3 children)

Being isolated. It's always confused me how much people complain about loneliness. I genuinely don't think I have ever felt that emotion before.

[–] slaneesh_is_right@lemmy.org 4 points 1 day ago (1 children)

There is a tv show called 60 days in. It's about sending people into these US shithole prisions without anyone knowing that they don't belong. The idea is to figure out what goes wrong and where drugs come from and so on. Anyway, they always talk about solidarity confinement and how bad it is. Like the biggest and baddest dude is worried about getting into "the hole" Then there was this one guy who was on the show who got into solitary confinement and enjoyed the shit out of it. He would get in trouble again and not do anything to get out of the hole.

I always felt like this guy.

[–] DistrictSIX@lemmy.zip 1 points 20 hours ago

Solitary confinement is torture. That guy just felt it to be less torturous than being with the general population. Which is quite a commentary on the horrors of the prison environment when you think about it.

[–] TubularTittyFrog@lemmy.world 2 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago) (1 children)

i feel it when I'm in a group of people who I find alienating and miserable to be around. or after breakups briefly.

i recently had to quit a group i'd been a part of for years... because the new members were really petty and vindictive people and being around such people is awful. they'd sit around after activities and just talk shit and mock people, it was disgusting.

[–] slaneesh_is_right@lemmy.org 3 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Holy shit that was kind of my old friend group. Every time we hung out it was just shitting on people that weren't there. At some point i realised that they shit on me too when i'm not there and felt less and less the desire to hang out with them.

[–] TubularTittyFrog@lemmy.world 1 points 13 hours ago* (last edited 13 hours ago)

yeah 100%. it was depressing af. the OG people in this group were nothing like that. They were... interested in the actual activity... not pretending to be into so they could socialize and talk shit and spread gossip.

all the OG people left because they started families. the people who were shitty... were perpetually single.

[–] 1984@lemmy.today 2 points 1 day ago

With age, I have become more introverted also. I guess i havent met that many amazing people. But ive been working in offices a lot, so probably why.