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How big are your tits?
Do you mind me asking why do you want to avoid (what seems like) people in general?
Have you met people?
I have. They’re terrible.
People are great. I don't mean to offend, but a generic dislike of people like that is a sign of low self esteem. Or any other of the myriad of mental illnesses we have today. That's why I asked. This needs to be addressed, simply moving into the mountains is not a solution.
Again, I don't want to sound confrontational, but psychiatry has studied this for decades, it's not a new thing. I wished we stopped making jokes with this subject. If yall dislike people that much, maybe you need some help. I'm saying it sincerely, not to belittle your individual experiences.
I’m good, thanks.
You must avoid the news if you're unaware that people are terrible.
The news is biased towards displaying the worst of humanity. SOME people are terrible. Most are just people, nice in some ways, not so nice in others.
Okay fine. Try driving a car for 15 minutes and then tell me 80% of people aren't stupid assholes.
Eh. I'd put it at 5% assholes, 80% should have failed driving exam. Granted, this may vary based on region.
Idk where you live but in the last long drives across my country I did, 7h each way, I found just 1 asshole on the whole way, and my asshole finding rate is higher than normal since I drive my parents BMW while respecting speed limits and some people get competitive, weird. Most typical drives across towns, 15m, are completely normal. Sorry to say but your anecdotally experience is not universal. Where I live most people drive responsibly and we have plenty slopes and curves.
My "anecdotal experience" is practically common knowledge. But sure your anecdotal experience is fact that trumps that.
Not everywhere. Maybe you are being too US centric? That has not been my experience or from the people I know driving through Spain, France and some sorts of Germany. I've read a post of someone from the US talking about the culture shock they had when driving in the UK about people being waaay more polite, and several people corroborated that experience.
You're right to a degree, but I spent many hours driving in Europe recently and while it was refreshingly better, I still consider a lot of behavior I saw assholish such as driving way over the speed limit. It's just selfish and reckless. Saw that constantly.
Oh... Well, if they do it in the left lane who cares tbh. I don't really speed that much, usually 130 in a 120 lane if it's not congested, or if traffic is going at that speed, but there's always the random car going super fast in the left lane, whatever.
Each country has their culture obviously, saying Europe is not specifying much tbh, but here in Spain it's socially accepted that most people go over the limit of the situation allows for it, and we don't really care if someone is going fast in the highway in their special lane. It's not that common and it doesn't really happen inside cities or places where it matters.
PD: big cities like Madrid are crazy though, everyone is angry and shouting all over the place, breaking laws nonstop. But that's Madrid, a really stressful place to drive, people are burned out.
I'm talking about 30+ km/h over on a crowded highway. Weaving in and out of lanes like a racecar driver. But regardless being in the left lane isn't an excuse. Hence the law does not allow for that. It's still highly dangerous and not considerate of anyone else's safety.
Well, I agree there, but I'd be surprised if you doing more than one of those a week even if you did trips through Spain on a daily basis. Those are rare here.
In any case, going back to you original point that you only need to take a 15 minute drive to see that 80% of people are assholes, I think that that's been debunked already. Have a great day 😃
Yes let us take all words entirely literally and then compare against the best possible case. People suck, you've not been paying attention.
You are the one that has not been paying attention. You are generalising a big minority in most places in regards to driving, then extrapolating to the general population everywhere.
It seems that you want to keep living weary of everyone because of your conception of some people. It's sad but you do you.
I don't think further discussion has any merits, have a nice day.
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It is not common knowledge. It is a common fallacy. People are the solution, not the problem. Bad things happening in the world absolutely do not mean "people are bad". You guys need to work on your psychological resilience. The bad news don't decide how you relate to people in general, that's a choice you're making. And you can stop making it. You'd feel better and less cynical.
(of course I'm here lecturing people, but I myself don't always manage to keep a positive mindset, we're human)
I always return to the line from Men In Black. "A person is smart but people are scared dumb animals and you know it"
Basically every individual person in a one on one conversation can make for a wonderful interaction, but once you can't single out an individual to learn how brilliant they are at something you just have a sea of people defined by the lowest common denominator
I used to think more like that. These last few years though, I've really seen the darkness humanity is capable of. Half of America is happily accepting fascism right now. I won't excuse that away. And it's far from the only example of what I'm saying.
Indeed I do. Here on Lemmy, for instance, anything with news in the name gets blocked. I follow my local news on my own terms by going to the news pages instead of being fed whatever is popular today. This helps a lot. Logically speaking, "news" must include mostly bad things, otherwise it'd be called "sames", (assuming, as I do, that we live in mostly good times). I'd recommend to everyone, specially people on the younger side, to try to experience life by yourself and connect to people one on one, mass media is a cancer.
Sounds like opting into ignorance actually
Yes. I can't change the world and I have a life to live.
Then stay ignorant and don't judge others for being informed.
I'm not judging, I'm trying to provide a different perspective to your pessimistic view of the world. I think it might help you.
Yeah I've never been one to ignore the truth. I'm more mature than that (not that I'm really mature, this is just baseline adult shit)
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