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There may be an age or generational explanation for this, but I especially notice this behavior on Reddit while not nearly as much here on Lemmy (though maybe that's also a mater of implementation).

It seems many are so quick to assert overly-confident positions, but then hit-and-run with some smarmy remark at even the slightest challenge, then quickly block. Like, not even crazy stuff. Just basic, civil disagreements. I can pretty well predict when it will happen, and it always feels like such a petty ego-sparing fingers-in-ears denial thing to do, and to me if anything shows they were not very confident in their views being challenged.

I think I've only blocked a handful of people over a decade who were actively spamming, stalking, or spewing extremely hateful rhetoric and I just reported them simultaneously. You have to cross a pretty extreme and irrational line for me to do that.

The reason I ask is to see if I'm missing something; to better understand the mindset of those who do.

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[–] Doomsider@lemmy.world -1 points 22 hours ago* (last edited 18 hours ago) (1 children)

Yeah, you are missing context. I can tell right away when someone is arguing from bad faith or spewing propaganda. I don't report, I just block.

You don't want to get blocked, I get it. You think it is some failing in people but it is just you who is failing to understand other people's decisions.

You are thinking about this from your very naive point of view. You are being very disingenuous painting everyone who blocks as someone who is not interested in conversation especially with people who don't agree with them.

While I am sure this happens there is another side to this which is just people blocking obvious trolls for their mental health. I am never going to convince an incel to stop hating women. There is no point in talking to them.

[–] sunzu2@thebrainbin.org -2 points 22 hours ago (1 children)

incel to stop hating women.

i have been on fedi for a hot minute and i have never seen these mythical incels. you got a link to check out?

[–] Doomsider@lemmy.world 3 points 20 hours ago (2 children)

You see this is what I am talking about. This is either bad faith or someone so clueless they are not even worth talking to.

[–] LadyButterfly@reddthat.com 3 points 7 hours ago

I'm a mod at !Womensstuff@piefed.blahaj.zone can confirm there are oodles of Manosphere types and incels here.

[–] sunzu2@thebrainbin.org 0 points 20 hours ago (1 children)

you made a claim about incels on lemmy. i have seen others make these claims.

lemmy is has a rather unique community, so either i am not federating with them or ...

[–] LadyButterfly@reddthat.com 1 points 7 hours ago (1 children)

I'm a mod at !Womensstuff@piefed.blahaj.zone we deal with them a lot. We have really hateful behaviour from them, but we're used to it

[–] sunzu2@thebrainbin.org 2 points 5 hours ago (1 children)

Thank you for sharing.

Reviewed the mod log but I don't see any content being removed for being incel