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you think the state would do that? just go out there and fabricate evidence? 
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Assuming the narrative being presented is true, I'm personally fairly comfortable calling this guy a chaser as a trans woman myself.
Doing this shit for these reasons is a clear and obvious demonstration of a lack of any consideration for his girlfriend's actual happiness and desires, under this narrative he clearly seems far more concerned about the concept/object of her than the actual material reality of her - otherwise he wouldn't've gotten her involved in all this highly dangerous bullshit.
Again, assuming these texts and all are real, this feels gross and objectifying to me in the same way people trying to kill people to impress/gain the approval of celebrities is gross and objectifying, just with a different context.
Are the men who engage in acts of violence without caring for the feelings of their cis girlfriends chasers too? Were the people who you specifically mention, the people who engage in public acts of violence to win the approval of a celebrity chasers? If the motivations here are similar and the acts are similar, it is unnecessary to make the further assumption that its a murder based on the fetishisation of trans women based sinply on the partner in question being trans. Especially when such is the direct rhetoric employed by fascists gearing up for a crackdown on trans people.
I am specifically calling out the intense objectification required to do something like this, which does occasionally end up directed towards cis women, yes, not that it is equivalent to a chaser relationship as the power dynamic there is quite different.
The fascists are unfortunately going to accelerate the crackdown regardless because of this adventurist moron. Me calling it how I see it privately to my friends and on an obscure, irrelevant internet communist forum isn't going to move the needle on that anyway.
Again, the only difference here is that the person the violence is dedicated to is trans. You are looking at a situation and assuming based solely on the girlfriend being trans that it must be a chaser motivated by his fetishisation of trans women to kill and you are doing so in the middle of the right trying to create a narrative of exactly that. You are doing so in spite of people also presenting evidence the relationship began pre transition.
I can't stop you from saying whatever you want, you can theorise that he did it because he's a herald of galactus, but I am not going to accept the twin narratives of trans induced killer violence used to justify transphobia and the idea that the only possible motivation to be in a relationship with a trans person is to be a chaser.
Do remember I repeatedly said 'assuming the narrative being presented is true'. I don't really have the skepticism about the reality of these texts everyone else seems to - personally the way he texts in this document seems perfectly normal, I know a bunch of people who text like that including myself - but I'm not entirely uncritically accepting the government narrative here.
Probably 95% of cis men who get into relationships with trans women are chasers, bluntly, it's far more likely than not when it comes to men seeking trans women. I haven't seen that evidence suggesting the relationship started before transition, though, that would definitely suggest I am more likely to be incorrect.
Whether the texts are true or not does not mean we have to accept the narrative of trans induced murder based simply on the existence of a trans person in the story. I have no problem accepting the texts as being true, it literally changes nothing. So far we have a guy who dedicated a murder to his girlfriend, maybe, an FBI who is flailing trying to connect this to the existence of trans people, and people accepting that not merely what facts presented by the FBI are true but tbat the narrative they wish to portray is also accurate. The right wants this to be about the existence of trans people, and i see no need to accept that narrative. Especially not when in the process we must make the assumption that all boyfriends of trans girls are chasers inherently because no other reason for a relationship could exist. And you can believe that if you want, but I personally think we need to leave that shit on /tttt/.
I've never stepped on /tttt/ in my life, dipshit. My opinion on cis men in relationships with trans women is entirely based on my own experience and those of every single trans woman I have ever fucking met.
Don't talk down to me like I don't know the experiences of myself and my sisters, he/fucking/him. What I'm saying wouldn't seem so incomprehensible to you if actually had any understanding of what life is like for trans women under this dogshit patriarchy.
I didn't accuse you of being transphobic, jackass, I accused you of talking down to me and insulting me by implying I'm a fucking /tttt/ poster when I'd been nothing but good faith. I was never even suggesting this was a fucking 'trans madness caused murder', those are words you put in my mouth.
Disengage doesn't work like that, you can't leave a fucking parting shot accusing me of being a fucking Nazi. But whatever, I'm done with this, sorry you can't handle a trans woman disagreeing with you.
Transmisogynist pig.
That's not how the disengage rule works. You don't get to get in your final words and say disengage.
Where do you get confidence to talk down to a trans person like this? Your high and mighty "I'm an ally btw" doesn't mean shit if this is how you interact with the trans community.
tbf he wasn't invoking the disengage rule that ends a conversation, he was just using the term as its literal meaning. as in, you can keep replying but I won't.
idk the context of the conversation just wanted to maybe help clarify a miscommunication
Either way, he is being an asshole and talking down to a trans person. That is the part of my comment that matters more to me.
Thank you for the support, for the record. Figures he was a gay guy - I've seen this sort of behavior from supposed ally gay men way too many times.
I think being gay and subject to homophobia makes a lot of them forget that they are still capable of being misogynistic and acting in a patriarchal manner, and especially still capable of being transmisogynistic, to put it politely.
Tbh it suddenly made the whole conversation make a lot more sense. I wondered why someone who's not even trans would feel entitled to be such an authority in an incredibly rude way, but this also checks out with experiences I've had with gay men talking over me as well.
I wasn't about to watch you deal with shit alone
The amount of times I've had a gay man pull out that condescending 'we' when discussing specifically transfem issues is FAR too many, yeah.
Thank you very much!!!!!!!!
cis gay men are like a half-step away from being straight, as far as societal acceptance goes, but they often act like they're still a strongly oppressed minority. it's really disheartening to see some of them playing oppression olympics with other queer people instead of going to bat for us with the straights.
Yeah, it's really fucking annoying and yet typical. I've never really known gay men to act in any other way, honestly.
Might just be because of my age/time spent in the queer community - I would suspect that in many ways younger gay men who have grown up with much much more social acceptance may actually be WORSE about this then ones who are even 10~ years older.
That said from what I've read gay men have never treated trans women particularly well, as a trend. Unexamined misogyny and in particular transmisogyny seems to have been an issue even in the worst stages of homophobic oppression. Lesbians have always been much better about that stuff, despite the cultural prominence of TERF lesbians.
I am choosing not to continue this discussion. My interlocutor is free to continue but I won't. I am not going to report them for breaking a rule, imply they did so, or anything of that sort. I just don't want to continue the discussion. I am also not going to continue the discussion with you. As far as I am concerned the discussion is just over.
~~I think the chaser stuff hit a bit too close to home by the way you're interacting with us tbh.~~
Feel free to continue being rude to transfems though.
I am a gay man who is exclusively interested in men. I have no interest in trans women as romantic partners because I don't think they are men and they are unlikely to wish to present as men within a relationship with me. A relationship between me and a trans woman would be harmful for her and unsatisfying for me. Some gay men can make a relationship with a trans woman work, but I don't believe that is me. I am now also going to disengage from you, since nothing productive can come from this.
Well fair enough then, but you're still incredibly rude lol.
I'd also like to point out that assuming someone must be a tttt poster probably doesn't feel good to that poster either!! Maybe don't jump to that next time