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[NSFW] Any recovering porn addicts willing to share inspirational stories? (feddit.uk)
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I've pretty much hit rock bottom and come to the conclusion that I can't stay on my current trajectory. It's already cost me one, if not two, relationships, and I'm tired of dating on hard mode. I'm worried I might be too far gone, so it would be immensely helpful to hear from someone who's been in the same place and managed to turn things around.

I can manage a week or two with the power of self loathing but once the urges come back I'm really, and I mean really good at coming up with excuses.

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[–] Bukkakechess69@lemmynsfw.com 1 points 5 days ago

I guess I’m training for it. But yeah seeing a listing on fetlife and playing it through my head and then telling my partner that I’ll fuck around and find out. Learning how to communicate and talk about thoughts/needs/wants takes time and is not something that people casually talk about. Which is why so many people are forever unhappy. I think there’s a small redemption bonus in relationships for at least trying to make an effort to not make the situation actively worse ;)