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Single again, what are the cool dating apps?
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One of the most disheartening things I ever did was just try to cynically play a numbers+sales game on dating apps where you just try to systematically get as many dates as possible and it worked. It did damage to my psyche that I still haven't recovered from. The connections were soulless, awkward, and heart wrenching. I'm mad just thinking about it. I'm better off doing anything else with my time
That is exactly how you're supposed to use dating apps though. These services' purpose is to commodify dating and intimate human connection. On the app, your profile is the packaging that you've created for yourself to market the value that you hold as a human being in hopes that others will think that whatever value they believe they can give to you, also matches the value that you can give to them
You did the "right" thing of treating yourself as a service/product and others as potential clients to sell yourself to
Yeah I feel like early dating websites were a bit better but this is basically the meta for the apps now. I wouldn’t suggest it for most people because it’s a very hollow experience no matter how desirable you are
Ya I did this too. I did eventually meet my current partner, but the process was soul crushing. I literally have nightmares of having to date again.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_iLnZ4HCrfo&pp=ygUMeWd1cG5payBsb3Zl
yugopink did a great video talking about this experience, hope you recover from your expedition