This smacks of my regular duty on r/LGBT before I migrated, which is to remind everyone:

a) Everyone is valid. The malicious ones will be managed by the mods, but even they need love to, for those up to the challenge. And...

b) That big, beautiful catalog of terms to describe ourselves and extend the alphabet is there for you to figure out who you are. It's not there for erecting a gatekeeper checkpoint or to correct others who identify differently than their behavior (and they will identify differently than their behavior. Go watch Bob and Rose. ) If you only allow gold star lesbians to your pot luck, then your friends will stop telling you who they are.

Right now in the US (UK, Canada, Australia...) neonazis and white power militants and Christian nationalists literally want to kill us and are following the recipe worked out by the SD in the German Reich about a century ago. Every time we have to put out an internal fire, it weakens the defense of the community. So it's a really good time to practice unconditional regard for your fellow queers and allies.