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Precise definitions are important in law. Someone threatening or using physical violence is a more severe crime. Conflating the two is detrimental to everyone.
Bless you trying to be sensible, but most in the US seem to have internalized violence as a virtue. Their feelings being hurt seems to mean someone has to get physically hurt to pay.
So the guy being paranoid because they were pick pocketed above somehow feels like he would avoid the impact if he gets to physically hurt the thief. He can't see how normal people don't really enjoy physically hurting others, and want to avoid it. They're not normal in his eyes, they're 'pussies' smdh.
Jesus I thought assumptions about others was more a thing of Reddit, not here. The user you're talking about simply stated they felt violated heavily by such, not that they'd inflict violence specifically.
My apartment was burglarized over a decade ago and I'm only just now getting over the trauma of it mostly. I had nightmares for years about coming home and my front door being wide open, and everything being gone. I lost sleep waking up repeatedly from these nightmares.
It's easy to point fingers when you haven't been traumatized by an event yourself. Have an ounce of fucking empathy here. Neither that person nor I want to hurt folks at all, and I absolutely wouldn't be able to hurt someone who broke into my place even if I was home besides yelling and trying to scare them off by making a loud racket. But that doesn't mean we weren't violated in some fashion.
Like the other commenter in the thread about his wife elbowing a pickpocket, that's not actually going to hurt or damage anyone but it'll startle the hell out of them to run off. It's not like she beat him or made him bleed, at worst he got a bruise for a couple hours.
Anyway great to know more folks give zero shits about mental health clearly.
LMAO because Americans really care about the conditions that drive people to crime. Solving the issue of poverty solves a lot of crime, but fuck caring about the mental health of those driven to crime. We only care about the mental health of people who are doing well.
I want some of what you're smoking. US society is absolutely fucked.