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[–] the_q@lemmy.zip 41 points 3 weeks ago (3 children)

Modern life creates anxiety. I won't assume you're American, but here in America we're programmed to feel guilt while not being "productive". We take pride in overwork and abstaining from rest. It's one of the greatest successes capitalism propaganda has ever created. The South in particular eats it up.

[–] latenightnoir@lemmy.blahaj.zone 20 points 3 weeks ago* (last edited 3 weeks ago) (1 children)

Not American, but I can tell you that it's the same in Romania. I was raised from the start to believe that I had no value as a being unless I generated something. And it started well before Capitalism hit our country, these things were passed down generation to generation - I'm not just talking out of my ass on this one, I'd say roughly 80% of Millenials I've met in 34 years of existence in this country have shared at least the gist of my experience.

Grandma always told me "if your leg isn't broken, you're going to school," and this happened while I was running fevers of 39°C and my face was leaking from every hole.

[–] the_q@lemmy.zip 8 points 3 weeks ago (1 children)

Yeah that's how it is here. It's crazy that it worked so well on us.

[–] latenightnoir@lemmy.blahaj.zone 8 points 3 weeks ago* (last edited 3 weeks ago)

Worked aces, yes! Had to have a system breakdown after doing Overtime for a month* straight just to understand that it's unsustainable - weekends included, 9AM to 11PM. Needed the money for Christmas.

[–] kautau@lemmy.world 8 points 3 weeks ago (1 children)

Also important to note a lot of social media tries to influence this as well. “Hustle and grind” is/was championed by corporations trying to extract more labor from people. Unfortunately because of that, many people see influencers with nice houses and flashy cars and fake morning routines and think that’s the key to success rather than being born/married into a rich family or being one of the 0.001% who gets super rich otherwise.

[–] the_q@lemmy.zip 4 points 3 weeks ago

Very true. The whole idea is to drain as much from regular folks as possible because we can always make more people!

[–] Whats_your_reasoning@lemmy.world 5 points 3 weeks ago (1 children)

I read this comment moments after debating with myself over whether to call out tomorrow or not (and then finally making the call.) I've been sick for days and right now I'm lucky to go 10 minutes without sneezing.

The stupid guilt is so ingrained, I have to remind myself that resting when I'm sick is a good thing - not just for me, but for everyone I work with. This country has its priorities all backwards.

[–] the_q@lemmy.zip 3 points 3 weeks ago

Yeah, man. Take care of yourself. You're a human being, goddammit!