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What is smth toxic in a relationship you should not like but did/do?
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When someone relied on me for every emotional need. It had me feeling wanted but it's not healthy in the long run, even though it felt nice. (nobody should need to feel wanted, and nobody should rely on just 1 person for support)
Yep, same.
I know it's not healthy, but in particular when I feel a bit unstable myself, having someone else be reliant on me, especially emotionally, helps feel me good about myself. And it also anchors me since I have a "job to do".
But it's not healthy, I know. And before you say "get a pet", I do nowadays. 😅
Maybe I need a pet. I've been working on myself for like 10 years and all I needed was a pet!
I realized I had a bit of this myself when I saw barry.
Well for me it was them messaging only me non stop, and them cancelling plans with their friends so they could spend time with me instead.
Yup.