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Everytime I see depictions of "normal" households in TV/Movies/ the house always look extra clean and their belongings are new.

And everytime I see depictions of poverty, its always a house that's filled with junk, computers are like a decade old, no food in fridge, either no car or car is barely functional.

Well, I know the media always exaggerates things, but if I had to use the media as a reference, I feel like my childhood has been closer to the poverty depiction and also life felt so "ghetto" for me (for lack of a better word). Most of the furnature was just donated by relatives or my parents picked them up from the sidewalk that somebody threw out. I had a very shitty laptop, I had no phone for a majority of highschool and therefore not have friends, house is so filled with junk and messy because frugal parents love hoarding things that they never use. Didn't even have access to a car (in a car-centric neighborhood btw) because my parents didn't have one until like I was in highschool, and even then it was like very shitty and the AC didn't work (that car has since been replaced).

Also my parents never got me any toys or entertainment, I only had a shitty laptop to pirate everything. I have never, and still have not, ever watched a movie in a movie theater (which I heard was supposedly something everyone have experienced?) like every movie I've ever watched (pirated) is either from the 15.6 inch 1336 x 768 resolution display on the laptop that I had, or from the phones that I later got varying from the 1080 x 720 resolution 5 inch display, to the later phone with 5.5 inch 1920 x 1080 display.

My life is like 70% accurate to the sterotypical depiction of poverty except the empty fridge part, so I guess I lucked out on that.

I'm assuming this is just the standard working class childhood experience?

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[–] hansolo@lemmy.today 11 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago)

Rural poor checking in.

I've lived in a camper, and then in the back of a convenience store my patents ran. Eventually upgraded to a doublewide. But I went to a rural school with like 40 kids that were all also poor. One kid and his family were miners living in a series of vans upon blocks by the mine. My best friend and his family lived in a half used rundown motel, the other half too broken down to bother living in. The richest kid was a rancher's family that lived in a barndominium.

So every family on TV was rich to me, but it was TV, so I figured it was all fantasy land anyway. Star Trek wasnt real, either. I had seen a "normal" school before 3rd grade, but by high school and college, people that thought Nickelodeon (which I didn't see until college anyway) shows were relatable at all just seemed like space aliens to me. I was likely more the space alien to them.