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This might cause a struggle but: Calling people prudes for not wanting to sexualise themselves is bad (hexbear.net)

submitted 1 day ago by Dirt_Owl@hexbear.net to c/chat@hexbear.net

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"We need to sex up your wardrobe. What do you mean you're not comfortable wearing that? Oh honey, don't be such a prude, all the girls are doing it and you want to be successful don't you? No one's going to watch someone that dresses like their grandma."

I get sick and tired of so called leftists equating exploitation to sexual liberation.

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[–] CommunistCuddlefish@hexbear.net 2 points 23 hours ago

Only comments I ever make on people's appearance are if they've clearly put thought and effort into something about their outfit and it may brighten their day to hear those choices validated. And it's gotta be something innocuous that can't come off as sexualizing them like, "love those spider earrings" or "the birds on that dress are great". Basically, validating the choices and efforts someone's made about their outfit, never anything about their actual body because 1. that's very invasive and unwanted and 2. there is only a very small degree to which people have any control over their bodies' appearances.

It's weird but I've gotten compliments from people, mostly women, on my body, out of nowhere, and it's just come across as creepy. It would have been much appreciated if we were together or had some established relationship but these are complete strangers commenting on how nice my eyes or arms or facial structure is and I'm just like "get away get away get away"

But someone commenting that they like my death to fascism shirt, or some band shirt? That's totally fine.