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We spend our days bound by endless obligations. Yet, even with loneliness, failed relationships, and soul-draining work, people still manage to catch a glimpse of happiness. Why?

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[–] SnotFlickerman@lemmy.blahaj.zone 3 points 5 days ago* (last edited 5 days ago)

It's up to you to create your own purpose in life.

In my view, connection with others and the happiness and joy we can find in that is the reason for living.

It's what makes the world so terrifying that there are so many broken people who just want to hurt and dominate others and have no care for depth of connection. Because they are wasting their lives on accumulation of power and are painfully obviously deeply sad and broken people.

Sam Altman has his own issues, but he's dead-on when talking about someone like Elon Musk:

“Probably his whole life is from a position of insecurity. I feel for the guy,” Altman said. “I don’t think he’s, like, a happy person. I do feel for him.”

So find people, find connections with them, make your life about your connection with others. That's my suggestion. Love is scary, but also freeing. Will that be a struggle with the obligations we face? Sure, but not impossible, especially if you do your best to set clear boundaries and focus on your family and friends as opposed to the soul crushing job you work to be able to take care of yourself.

One of my favorite films is Dead Man. It's a "buddy movie" about the importance of friendship and the unlikely places we find it. Two men who have been rejected by their respective societies find friendship, trust, and kinship in each other. I think this may be worth a watch for you.