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Could use some kind words rn (lemmygrad.ml)

submitted 5 months ago by IvarK@lemmygrad.ml to c/chat@hexbear.net

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Long story short, my otherwise perfectly healthy partner had to go through brain surgery earlier today due to a clot in her brain causing two mini-strokes. She’s fine now and expected to make a full recovery with no lasting damage but man it was so scary :c

We’re barely in our mid-20s this sort of shit isn’t supposed to happen! She has to stay at the hospital until Sunday and we don’t know if there will be rehab and stuff involved. We do know that the docs are going to try their best to find out why it happened.

I feel morbidly vindicated in my impostor syndrome telling me life was going a bit too well in more or less all aspects lately, so this kind of thing feels deserved somehow (for me not for her she’s the most precious thing on earth and deserve only good things)

No real point just wanted to yell into the void a bit. My family and friends are all great for support so I’ll be fine.

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[–] JustSo@hexbear.net 9 points 5 months ago* (last edited 5 months ago) (1 children)

This stuff is so scary to face down. I've been there a couple of times with loved ones. It really reminds you of our mortality and the capriciousness of life's chaos.

But now your partner will have had a barrage of tests and scans so whatever issue caused this can be managed and you'll more or less know with some confidence that a lot of other scary stuff has been ruled out.

It sounds like your partner got relatively lucky given how serious this sort of shit can be, I'm glad she's going to be okay. What I can tell you though is I've watched two people I love have bad brain things happen and they have basically recovered fully. One of them was probably 3x as old as your partner is.

It is a life changing experience obviously, but the brain is incredibly good at healing or working around damage. Neuroplasticity is amazing. Being so young, even if there is some temporary setbacks, I am certain she will bounce back. You guys might even find new beauty in life now that you've experienced how fragile and contingent it is.

Be kind to yourself, as kind as you are to her at minimum. You are valuable and loved.

[–] IvarK@lemmygrad.ml 2 points 5 months ago

Thanks for sharing your experience. It means a lot!