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"you get the pronouns i feel like using for you" is some phobe shit, adding a third option doesn't make it less of a shitty thing to do.
it's shitty to continue they/them'ing someone who asked for different pronouns, no different than referring a person you know is a trans woman as "he", full stop. but please continue spinning yourself in circles to make it okay to knowingly and willingly misgender people, queer folks deserve to see that big red flag you're waving.
refusing to acknowledge someone's gender identity is phobic and abusive, if you're having trouble with this very basic core concept then you're no ally of mine. the fact that you keep returning to "wHaT iF i DoN't kNOw" after I've already hammered as hard as I can on "yeah but once they tell you tho" says the ENTIRE quiet part for you.
i think i've been pretty clear in my meaning, and you're continuing to willfully miss each and every point to a tee. it's pretty clear you're not engaging in good faith at this point so i'm just gonna hit the block and report buttons and move on with my day.
also hello i am a trans woman who has experienced they/them being weaponized as a vehicle to refuse to acknowledge my identity, and it landed exactly the same as "he". please put your assumptions back in your ass where they came from, they're worse than useless.