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this post was submitted on 31 Oct 2024
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I think the ability to react to what life brings in a healthy way can be really great for you. I don't think it's bullshit.
But too often I hear this from people who are just trying to wave off the struggle of others. I know people who are scared to engage empathy when it comes to a person with serious bad luck. Perhaps they would be too devastated or it would remind them that they too could get unlucky one day.
So they blame the victim and say it's in the victim's head, the victim should try harder. And it makes them feel safe, because they, of course, have the right attitude. This way they also get rid of the feeling they should help the victim.
Those people make bullshit of this otherwise good advice.