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christian moralism is when you think people shouldn't be unknowingly stuck in a relationship with someone who has no respect for them
nah dawg that is not your relationship. you overstepped. greatly. wtf.
you could've also been cheating that entire time too. donny blame someone else's actions for your own decisions in life. you are responsible for yourself and your decisions when it comes to inter-personal relationships, full stop.
You seem to have issues with the "ethical" part of non-monagamy. Cheating on your partner (aka, sleeping with other people without their consent), is not ethical. The ethical thing to do is to ask for that consent, and to break it off if you cant get it and you need to be with/sleep with other people.
Something tells me I shouldn't need to explain this
Edit : Okay I get it youre against the monogamous patriarchal structure of marriage. I'm too actually, but as long as you get into a relationship with a partner that promises exclusivity it's absolutely unfair to live a better life and prevent them to do so too. That's the actual problem, instead of opening the relationship honestly and both live a better life outside the bonds of marriage you keep the other unable to do so and that's wrong.
I mean, if someone were to be put in danger by being exposed- wouldn't that be a pretty damn good excuse?
there's any number of reasons people "cheat" and main one is that the very idea of monogamy and cheating stands from patriarchal monotheism and the fact that through ask of human history large numbers of adults have "cheated" or lived in non-monogamous societies shows that the idea that it is "BAD" to cheat it moralistic and idiotic.
Monogamy long predates patriarchal monotheism. Jews didn't invent marriage. And while there have always been cultures without strict monogamy, there have also always been cultures with strict monogamy - and often these can exist in the same culture. How that makes the voluntary choice to be monogamous universally bad and therefore cheating is universally good I don't know.
Non ethical non monogamy is no different from patriarchal monogamy. Get outta here with your bad takes that because toxic monogamy exists it's okay to be a lying sack of shit to your partners. Non monogamy is great but it has to be done ethically and consensually or it's just a different style of bad
Pretty sure my wife would be mad at me if I cheated on her. Is she an agent of the patriarchy?
I agree,but under the current monogamous paradigm, people are going to feel hurt and betrayed by this sort of behavior
So,even considering this,it would have been reasonable to expect that she would have told him beforehand
Until a more enlightened age arrives,where more types of human connection other than monogamy will be commonplace, we can assume most people will have been socially conditioned to expect an exclusive arrangement and may not wish to take part in less conventional types of relationships and then act accordingly
Yeah,I didn't word that correctly
I meant that it shouldn't be excused unless that is the case