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Monogamy long predates patriarchal monotheism. Jews didn't invent marriage. And while there have always been cultures without strict monogamy, there have also always been cultures with strict monogamy - and often these can exist in the same culture. How that makes the voluntary choice to be monogamous universally bad and therefore cheating is universally good I don't know.

Non ethical non monogamy is no different from patriarchal monogamy. Get outta here with your bad takes that because toxic monogamy exists it's okay to be a lying sack of shit to your partners. Non monogamy is great but it has to be done ethically and consensually or it's just a different style of bad

Pretty sure my wife would be mad at me if I cheated on her. Is she an agent of the patriarchy?

I agree,but under the current monogamous paradigm, people are going to feel hurt and betrayed by this sort of behavior

So,even considering this,it would have been reasonable to expect that she would have told him beforehand

Until a more enlightened age arrives,where more types of human connection other than monogamy will be commonplace, we can assume most people will have been socially conditioned to expect an exclusive arrangement and may not wish to take part in less conventional types of relationships and then act accordingly