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Getting back into dating and I fell for a married woman wtf (hexbear.net)

submitted 2 years ago by Feinsteins_Ghost@hexbear.net to c/chat@hexbear.net

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Couple months ago I met a woman who works at a dispensary I visit about once a week. We hit it off really well. Despite trying to just keep it casual sex, and that only, I ended up developing some feelings for her. She confessed the same to me. I even introduced her to my teenaged daughter, for fucks sake.

I ran into her this evening at a gas station, with another guy, who turns out to be her husband. They’ve been married five years, and have two children together, ages 4 and 2. Finding out they have kids just made me feel disgusting.

So, I told him. He didnt believe me until I described a tattoo in a somewhat intimate place on her body. I had no fucking clue she was married. I think I ruined someone’s marriage. Or at least took part in ruining one.

I feel guilty. I am sorry for what I participated in. Am I a bad person?

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[–] LigOleTiberal@hexbear.net 2 points 2 years ago (2 children)

you could've also been cheating that entire time too. donny blame someone else's actions for your own decisions in life. you are responsible for yourself and your decisions when it comes to inter-personal relationships, full stop.

[–] Omegamint@hexbear.net 43 points 2 years ago

You seem to have issues with the "ethical" part of non-monagamy. Cheating on your partner (aka, sleeping with other people without their consent), is not ethical. The ethical thing to do is to ask for that consent, and to break it off if you cant get it and you need to be with/sleep with other people.

Something tells me I shouldn't need to explain this

[–] lil_tank@hexbear.net 20 points 2 years ago* (last edited 2 years ago)

jesse-wtf

Edit : Okay I get it youre against the monogamous patriarchal structure of marriage. I'm too actually, but as long as you get into a relationship with a partner that promises exclusivity it's absolutely unfair to live a better life and prevent them to do so too. That's the actual problem, instead of opening the relationship honestly and both live a better life outside the bonds of marriage you keep the other unable to do so and that's wrong.